Meet Dr. Steilman’s Fiancé

Blessed greetings! My name is Robyn and as the title exclaims, I am betrothed to Derrick. The Lord has really outdone Himself with the way He brought us together. When I contacted Derrick through a pen pal website I never expected to meet my soulmate, but God had something truly divine in store for the two of us. I love this amazing man dearly!

A little bit about me. I live in a small town in Minnesota. I am a Certified Peer Support Specialist and I work on a mental health warmline. I have been a believer since I was a little girl and my faith is strong. The Good Lord has never left my side, even during those periods in my life when I strayed from the path.

I have struggled with mental illness and chemical dependency for much of my adolescence and adulthood. Depression, borderline personality disorder, anxiety and PTSD are my diagnoses, but I praise God because they are all largely in remission. The Lord began healing me in prison, when I set out to study His Word in earnest. I improved greatly by working very hard in Dialectical Behavioral and EMDR therapies as well as utilizing psychotropic medicines (of which I am mostly weaned off from, save some for sleep). I understand that there is a belief out there that using medications is like saying that I don’t trust God to heal me, but I say nay–as the Psalm 24 says, “The Earth is the LORD’s, and the fullness thereof; and they that dwell therein.” This includes the scientists, the pharmaceutical companies and the doctors who prescribe. As long as one is using the proper medications responsibly under supervision and coupled with therapy and a healthy faith life, there is no Biblical deviation.

I used methamphetamine for the first time at age 18 and abused it on and off until 2016 when I got clean. I also have had a nasty addiction to opiate pain killers that landed me in prison myself with a very short sentence of one year and a day. I am very ashamed of my crime, stealing someone else’s pain medication, however I did my time and I am square with the state. Spiritually I know God has forgiven me, Jesus suffered for me (and you!) and I am forgiven. Someday, though, I hope to fully forgive myself.

I have been taught by my parents that love isn’t just a feeling, it is mainly a choice. It is a verb, it is something you do. When I read Derrick’s “About Me” post, I almost fell off my chair. Everything he said was like reading a page out my journal. We both are extremely proactive and hardworking. We understand that a relationship requires attentiveness and constant care, especially when one partner is incarcerated. It is my joy to be there for Derrick, and he is my biggest fan.

We are just beginning the arduous process of getting married through the prison system in Washington state. More than likely we will be having a wedding via Zoom due to the tight restrictions caused by Covid-19. Of course once Derrick is freed (and I proclaim this in the holy Name of Jesus!) we will have another ceremony. What’s ultimately important is joining in the holy covenant of marriage together with God. I vow to submit to my husband always and he desires to serve and take care of me, his wife. The Lord is our foundation, an unbreakable rock.

Together we are working on getting our nonprofit, Convicted Ministries, up and running as well as this blog and his Facebook. We also are working to attain a pro bono attorney to right the injustice done in his case. I encourage you to check out Dr. Steilman on Facebook, we are trying to post daily. We will return messages ASAP. I am so grateful that I have finally found my lifetime companion and ministry partner, as we both have a strong passion for prison ministry. I love inmates dearly, men or women, and we plan to minister in prisons together once Derrick is free again.

Thanks for taking the time to read my entry, and if you have any questions or comments, please do so and I will get right back to you. May God’s peace and love flow through you today, tomorrow and beyond. God bless.